The next part of Titus 2:5 continues on with “…keepers at home, good…” Now, these are two words that do not say much and yet mean more than we realize. I looked up the words and found that I had never known what it meant before. How can we be keepers at home? Does this mean we need to stay in our homes 24/7 to make sure everything is perfect? Well, lets continue on and find out!
To be a keeper at home does not necessarily mean that you are at home all the time. The keeper at home has 3 different areas that she needs to be concerned about.
1. She needs to be a guard. Now a guard does not just sit around and let whatever or whoever pass. The guard is charged with certain duties and is accountable for those coming in or out of wherever he/she is guarding. What exactly would the keeper at home be guarding? There are many things that we need to guard our home against. We need to guard our home against bad attitudes not only from our children but also from ourselves. We very easily end up with attitudes towards our husband, our children, other people around us and even circumstances that happen within our lives.
We also need to guard against allowing false teaching to enter into our lives or the lives of our children. We need to guard against not spending time with the Lord which would include prayer time, Bible reading, studying, meditating on Scripture. We need to guard against laziness, lack of love, being too busy, selfishness, and many other things that maybe I haven’t mentioned. Because we are the ones that do most of the training of the children, it is important that we guard ourselves against these things. It is also very important that we guard our children against these things. We are supposed to be teaching our children diligently telling them when we sit in our house, when we walk by the way, when we lie down, and when we rise up. (Deut. 6:7; 11:19; Ps. 78:4-6; Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21) Every situation constitutes sharing the Word of God, Biblical principles, and the importance of following Christ!
2. She needs to be a stayer at home. This doesn’t mean that we stay at home 24/7 but we must be careful that the things outside the home don’t overtake us. Sometimes we can get so caught up in everything going on that we forget we have a family that needs taking care of. Shopping may be fun, Ladies, but if it interferes with your responsibilities in the home and it keeps you from being the help-meet to your husband then the shopping needs to be ditched! We are not here to indulge our flesh but we are called to be a help-meet to our husbands (first and foremost) and then a mother to our children before anything else!
There are some women that are taxi services for their children and therefore spend very little time at home. Ladies, this is not being a stayer at home. Our children do NOT need extracurricular activities to be well-rounded in their education. All you are doing is teaching them that entertainment is more important than following God’s Word. Beware that you don’t put extracurricular activity before commands of Scripture and therefore make it an idol! Although, we may not need to be in our homes 24/7 it is still important that we be in our homes and make it a HOME not just a HOUSE.
3. She needs to be domestically inclined (a good housekeeper). Now, this doesn’t mean that everything within her house is absolutely perfect! When we were in England, a woman that was extreme in cleaning her house was called ‘house proud’. I had to ask what it meant when I first heard that said. To be ‘house proud’ is to mean that that person’s house is absolutely beautiful. Nothing is out of place and everything looks spotless and perfect!
The only problem is that the family is ignored and the woman of the house has difficulty showing hospitality to anyone else ‘just in case they messed up the house’ or basically gets upset when the children touch anything in the house. The children are NOT allowed to be children. This is NOT what I am talking about! The house should be clean AND liveable! If you have children then I don’t expect that perfection rules the day (maybe the night but not the day). I do believe that children need to be taught to clean up after themselves but not to the extent that they are not even allowed to be members within the household. This doesn’t mean that the house will be clean at all times but the house should be taken care of as needed. We need to learn to be domestically inclined AND a good housekeeper!
We need to be good. This is dealing with good works that we do towards our families and others. Proverbs 31:11, 12 says, “The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” It is important that we do good toward our husband and seek always his good, not ours! Is this easy to do? Absolutely not! We women are selfish creatures and tend to think that our ideas and ways should always be followed. When we are willing to be submissive to the Lord we will see a difference in our attitudes toward our husband.