The next area we need to look at in older women teaching younger women deals with our attitudes and actions in general. Titus goes on to say in verse 5, “to be discreet, chaste…”
What is discreet? In looking at the meaning of the word, there are several different meanings so close together as to mean something similar and yet slightly different (as is with many words in the Bible). I think this is really going to hit home with a lot of us! The meaning: safe (sound) in mind, i.e. self-controlled (moderate as to opinion or passion):–discreet, sober, temperate.
This hits hard with the emotional state of women. How many times have we been self-controlled as to our opinions and/or passions? When someone has wronged our husbands or our children, how many times have we gotten angry because of that? Are we willing to look past the mother instinct of hurting someone back because they hurt the one/s we love? I have to be honest that there have been many times where I have gotten upset (and responded in an unChristlike manner) because someone has said or done something to my husband. Is this right? Absolutely NOT! As the saying goes, “Two wrongs never make a right!” If my position is right but my disposition is wrong then I am wrong! This has probably been directed specifically at women because we have a tendency to overreact.
These other two things also hit us as we have a hard time being temperate and sober over things. It’s much easier to go on binges whether they be food binges, shopping binges, or any other kind of binges that might be in our lives. It is important that we ask the Lord to help us in these areas so that we can be temperate, sober-minded and moderate in our passions and opinions.
Chaste is the next word and the meaning is: properly, clean, i.e. (figuratively) innocent, modest, perfect:–chaste, clean, pure. How many times have I heard from women (even pastor’s wives) that it is ok to read books that are not clean and pure because we have to “wind down sometime or other!” Ladies, it is NOT ok to read books unclean and impure books. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 4:23 to “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” Nowhere are we commanded to let our minds go! This teaching comes from the evil one because we are supposed to keep ourselves pure and clean at ALL times! The new age movement (including yoga) teaches that you should let your mind go and envision a nice area like woods or a lake or something like that. When we let go of our minds then the evil one and his minions (it would be more like his minions for us) have a heyday with our minds. Before you know it, the things we thought we had control over spring back to life and we are having to deal with those sins once again!
When we are seeking to keep our minds pure, keeping our passions and opinions moderate (according to God’s word not our preferences) then we will see that our lives are chaste and discreet in the areas that we should be. This might mean finding godly books to read (yes, you can read your husband’s theological books and it would help you immensely, believe it or not), a godly woman that is willing to disciple you, someone you can be accountable to in areas of your life where you are in desperate need of help, prayer time, meditation of scripture, reading your Bible, and seeking godly counsel where and when you need it. Ladies, let’s be chaste and discreet in our everyday living!